Generous wife tip

Today topic is so on point. My husband being a pastor and we being involved in ministry at very early stages of our Christian life as singles, we see so many people who have all kinds of sicknesses, diseases, problems because of unforgiveness. It would do us well to head what Lori and her husband are saying in today's tip.

From The Generous Husband series Things That Destroy Marriages ~

From Paul(Lori's husband) to the husbands:
Forgiving needs to occur quickly and fully for a marriage to be healthy. Several studies have shown that fighting does not kill marriages - those who frequently fight but forgive will have a better chance of surviving than those who almost never fight but hold a grudge. Regardless of what needs to be forgiven, or why, letting it fester does deep damage - and making a habit of that will rot your marriage from the inside out. So, be fast to forgive.

" But how can I forgive if I don't feel it - wouldn't that be a lie?"

Forgiving is a choice, and we can choose to do something that we don't feel. Friends of ours teach a way of doing this - they say "I forgive you, and I'll let you know when my feelings catch up." In other words, they choose to forgive because of their love and devotion, and they work on getting their feelings to match up with that choice. The reality is forgiving by choice gets the feelings pointed in the right [direction], and speeds up the [process of getting your] feelings [to] match ... the choice.

Lori's thoughts:
Actually this tip says it all very nicely. Forgive quickly. I think it's important to understand that forgiveness does not mean that trust is immediately established or that things don't need to change. It just means that you are willing to forgive (not hold a grudge) and work on solutions to whatever started everything in the first place.
Having trouble forgiving? I encourage you to gather all the scriptures about forgiveness and meditate on them or get a book about forgiveness and let God speak to your heart from the wisdom of its pages.

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. Lewis B. Smedes

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