Wifey Wednesday - Negativity

After many weeks I'm back again with the link up to Sheila Gregoire's Wifey Wednesday. Wifey Wednesday is the day that we discuss marriage more in depth and link up to Sheila's blog. To read Sheila's and other Wifey Wednesday posts or to link up your own post on marriage visit To Love Honor and Vacuum.

Sheila discusses negativity in marriage and how to deal with it. There are so many hurting wives out there. They suffer from verbal abuse from their husbands and they bottle it up all inside. They say nothing to the abusive spouse or to a trusted friend or advisor. I am not one to advocate being rude to anyone so don't expect me to say dish it back. I do recommend that you stand up for yourself and refuse this behavior.

It takes two to have a conversation. If your partner repeatedly refuses to heed your warnings to stop then I would suggest leaving the room each time he starts up his negative talk. Let him know that you are not going to stay there and walk out reminding him that you've repeatedly spoken to him about it. One should never be subjected to verbal abuse. I like Sheila's advice - go read it here - Wifey Wednesday - Changing the Dynamic. She talks about other issues as well.

God who created us looks at us as good. Verbal abuse takes its toll on anyone's psyche so even after stepping out you may need to speak to yourself. Enter into a time of praise and worship and thank God for all the good that He has put in you. Speak your value to yourself. Let your ears hear good things about yourself to counteract the negativity that was deposited by the negative words.

I remember in my single days when I had to deal with an incident of negativity from someone. I verbally re-affirmed myself by saying - "What a good thing my sense of value and worth does not come from what you say but from God". You may have to say it over and over. You also have to ask God to heal the wounds caused by those negative words. He is ready and willing to do that.

Another key thing is to make sure that you forgive your spouse. Unforgiveness breeds bitterness which breeds physical ailments at times. So forgiving is more for you than it is your spouse. Am I making sense? Let go of ill feelings and let forgiveness flow. Speak God's worth and value to yourself. You are fearfully and wonderfully made says the word of God.

So to conclude - refuse to accept negativity, speak God's worth and value to yourself and forgive. I would love to hear your thoughts. Do you agree or would you handle it some other way. I'm looking forward to your responses.